Driving anxiety: why it happens, and what actually helps

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Driving anxiety is a fear response to being behind the wheel, or to particular driving situations, that is out of step with the actual risk, and the NHS groups fears like this with phobias, an anxiety condition set off by a particular object or situation. Driving is not among the NHS's examples, which run to flying, heights and small spaces, but the shape is identical: something most people find ordinary sets off severe anxiety in you, and telling yourself it is fine does not make the body agree.

If it has reached the point where it is quietly running your life, you are not a bad driver and you are not alone. People with driving anxiety plan whole weeks around which roads they can face, turn down jobs because of the commute, and invent reasons why their partner should drive. From the outside it looks like preference. From the inside it is exhausting.

This piece covers what driving anxiety actually is, why it can seem to arrive from nowhere, what to do if panic hits while you are driving, and how people get past it. It belongs to the same family of fears as emetophobia, the guide that opens our phobias series, and it behaves the same way: the thing you do to feel safe in the moment is the thing that keeps the fear alive. Everything here is drawn from NHS guidance and UK mental health charities including Mind and Anxiety UK. It is not a diagnostic tool, and it will not tell you whether you have a phobia. If the fear is affecting your daily life, your GP is the right person to see, and Wobble is there for the days in between.

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What driving anxiety actually is

Mind describes a phobia as an extreme fear, a type of anxiety disorder, where the fear you feel does not match the risk of what you are afraid of. That is the useful bit to hold on to. Driving anxiety is not a measurement of how dangerous driving is or how good you are at it. It is a threat system that has decided the car, or the motorway, or the roundabout at the bottom of your road, is a serious danger, and is responding as if that were true.

The NHS lists the symptoms of a phobia as severe anxiety and worry, feeling dizzy or lightheaded, a noticeable or unusual heartbeat, tightness in the chest, feeling sick or being sick, trembling or shaking, and a strong fear that you may faint, lose control or die. Anyone who has gripped a steering wheel with sweating hands will recognise most of that list. Anxiety UK adds that a phobia can produce a state of panic when you are confronted with the situation, and that people tend to fall into a pattern of avoidance which varies enormously in how severe it gets.

It takes different shapes for different people: motorways and nothing else, unfamiliar routes, driving alone, driving at night, or driving at all. What they share is the fear, and the growing list of things you do to keep it quiet.

Why do I have driving anxiety all of a sudden?

Usually because something happened, even if it did not seem like much at the time: a near miss, a crash, a panic attack that arrived while you were driving, or a stretch of stress that lowered your threshold for everything. Mind says you can get a phobia from just one bad experience, and the NHS says many phobias can be linked back to a frightening event or a stressful situation, though it is honest that it is not always clear why a phobia starts.

The "all of a sudden" part is often less sudden than it feels. Mind notes that the general causes of anxiety can also cause phobias, because a phobia is an anxiety disorder, so a period of poor sleep, money worries, grief or overload can leave you more reactive to everything, and the car happens to be where it shows. Mind is also clear that you can have a phobia of something without ever having had a bad experience of it, which matters, because you can have driving anxiety without ever having had an accident and feel foolish about the fear for exactly that reason. Mind describes a learned version too, where growing up you picked up how the people around you reacted, so if a parent was a frightened driver, some of that may have come with you. None of these origins is a character flaw. They are the ordinary ways a threat system learns, and what is learned can be unlearned.

What should I do if I have a panic attack while driving?

Get the car somewhere safe as soon as you reasonably can, then let the attack pass before you drive on. The NHS says panic attacks are frightening but not dangerous, that most last between 5 and 20 minutes, and that an attack will not cause you any physical harm.

The NHS advice during a panic attack is to stay where you are if possible, breathe slowly and deeply, remind yourself that the attack will pass, and focus on peaceful, relaxing images. In a car, staying where you are means pulling over somewhere safe when you can and staying put, rather than pushing on to the next junction. Mind's version is a simple sequence: accept that you are having a panic attack, breathe slowly in and out while counting to five, and connect with your senses, something you can touch, taste or hear. Once it has passed, Mind suggests looking after the basics, resting, eating or drinking something, and telling someone you trust what happened.

Our guide to what a panic attack feels like describes the experience, and how to calm a panic attack goes deeper on the in-the-moment steps. A first panic attack behind the wheel is one way driving anxiety can start, because the brain files the car as the place where the frightening thing happened.

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Why avoiding driving makes the fear bigger

The NHS puts it plainly in its anxiety self-help: avoiding situations, or relying on habits we think will keep us safe, might actually make anxiety worse, and slowly facing up to a situation might help. Mind calls those habits safety behaviours, and is clear that they can make a phobia worse even while they feel like they are helping.

For driving, the safety behaviours are easy to mistake for sensible choices. Only driving with someone in the passenger seat. Only local roads. Only daylight. Taking the long way round to avoid one roundabout. Letting your partner drive everywhere until you have not been behind the wheel in a year. Each one brings real relief, and each time you avoid the thing and nothing bad happens, your brain files the avoidance as the reason you got away with it, so the world gets a little smaller and the next step back into the car gets a little bigger. It is the same pattern we describe in our guide to the fear of vomiting, where the avoidance appears to work, which is exactly why it is so hard to give up.

How do I get over driving anxiety?

Slowly, in steps you choose, with the avoidance coming down one notch at a time rather than all at once. That is the approach Mind describes for phobias and the NHS describes for anxiety generally, and it goes better with support than it does alone.

Build a ladder and start on the bottom rung. Mind's self-care advice for phobias is to make a list of the things that trigger your phobia, then a list of small tasks that slowly build into bigger ones, focusing on what is actually happening while you do each one, and repeating it until it no longer makes you anxious before moving up. For driving that might start with sitting in the parked car with the engine off, then driving round the block, then a familiar route at a quiet time of day, then the same route alone, then one junction of a dual carriageway and straight back off. Mind includes being kind to yourself during the process, and rewarding yourself as you go, as part of the approach rather than an afterthought.

Treat the thought as a prediction, not a fact. Mind suggests asking whether there is any evidence against the thought, whether you are imagining the most likely scenario or just the worst case, and whether you can look at the situation a different way. Driving anxiety runs on specific, catastrophic predictions, usually about losing control or causing a crash, and writing them down is often the first time they get examined rather than obeyed.

Give your body something to do. Mind recommends learning relaxation techniques such as breathing control, meditation and stretching, and the NHS describes breathing exercises and relaxation as ways of calming anxiety and reducing tension. Practising slow breathing when you are calm, so it is available when you are not, is the unglamorous part people skip.

Tell someone. Mind recommends talking to someone you trust, and suggests writing it down if saying it out loud feels too much. A fear of driving sounds small when you say it and enormous when you live it, which is why so many people never say it at all.

On treatment, Mind notes that NICE does not have guidelines on how the NHS should treat specific phobias, and that what you are offered is usually similar to the treatment for other anxiety disorders, with cognitive behavioural therapy and exposure therapy the talking therapies it describes. The NHS also lists talking therapies such as CBT among phobia treatments. If medication comes up as a question, your GP is the right person to have that conversation with.

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When to see your GP

The NHS is straightforward: see a GP if you think you have a phobia and the symptoms are affecting your life. Its wider anxiety guidance adds that you should see a GP if you are struggling to cope or if the things you are trying yourself are not helping. That is a lower bar than most people with driving anxiety set for themselves. You do not need to have had a crash, and you do not need a name for it before you book the appointment. If you are unsure whether anything about your health affects your driving, your GP is also the right person to ask.

In England you can refer yourself to NHS talking therapies without going through your GP, and the service covers phobias and panic, though waits vary widely. In Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland the GP route is the standard one. Privately, a therapist registered with BACP, UKCP, BABCP, BPS or NCS can help, and Counselling Directory (counselling-directory.org.uk) lets you search by what is worrying you and by location.

Please seek urgent help if you are having thoughts of suicide or self-harm, or you do not feel able to keep yourself safe. NHS 111 has a mental health option available 24 hours a day, Samaritans are on 116 123, and Shout is text-based on 85258 if talking feels like too much. If you have a medical emergency, that is 999 or A&E.

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Quick summary

Driving anxiety is an anxiety response, which the NHS groups with phobias and Mind describes as fear that does not match the actual risk. It can start with one bad experience, a panic attack behind the wheel, a stressful stretch of life, or nothing you can point to at all. Avoidance is what keeps it growing, and both the NHS and Mind are clear that safety behaviours can make anxiety worse even while they feel like they are helping. What helps is building back up in small deliberate steps, treating the catastrophic thought as a prediction rather than a fact, and telling someone. If panic hits while you are driving, pull over somewhere safe and let it pass. If the fear is affecting your life, that is reason enough to see your GP. You are not a bad driver, and you do not have to keep managing this on your own.

For the wider pattern, see emetophobia and fear of vomiting. If the sharp, sudden kind of fear is the main problem, what a panic attack feels like covers it.

Sources and further reading

• NHS: Phobias (nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/phobias)
• NHS: Get help with anxiety, fear or panic (nhs.uk)
• NHS: Panic disorder (nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/panic-disorder)
• NHS: Every Mind Matters, Anxiety (nhs.uk/every-mind-matters)
• NHS: NHS talking therapies (nhs.uk)
• Mind: About phobias (mind.org.uk)
• Mind: Causes of phobias (mind.org.uk)
• Mind: Treatment for phobias (mind.org.uk)
• Mind: Self-care for phobias (mind.org.uk)
• Mind: Panic attacks (mind.org.uk)
• Anxiety UK: Phobias (anxietyuk.org.uk)
• BACP: bacp.co.uk
• Counselling Directory: counselling-directory.org.uk
• Samaritans: 116 123 (samaritans.org)
• Shout: text 85258 (giveusashout.org)

This article is for information only and does not replace advice from a qualified medical professional. If a fear of driving is affecting your daily life, please speak to your GP or contact NHS 111. If you are in crisis, please call 999 or go to A&E.